First of all I would like to say happy fathers day to all fathers out there, especially the fathers that cares for their children and being there for them when they are needed and the fathers who did not abandoned them regardless what is the children’s ages. The fathers who cares for the children and being there for their children is getting more rare everyday, even if their parents are divorced and their fathers still visits their children every possibly chances they got to see their children instead of only visiting their children when their mothers begged their fathers to visit them because their children is missing their fathers who truly doesn’t care for them and that is a major problem but it is understandable for children especially when they are in very young ages. Those fathers who deserves to be called the fathers of their children has nothing but respects from myself, and I hope that those fathers enjoys their time with their children on this day because it is their day to celebrate the father’s day – It is a joy especially seeing these beautiful smiles because every smiles from the children worth more than anything in the world.
Happy fathers day to all fathers!
To all the fathers that cares for their children is enjoying today celebrating the father’s day with their children is a precious moment, same way on mother’s day and grandparents day too. The father’s day is there for a reason especially for all the fathers that always looks forwards to spend their time with their children every the chances they can get, it is important that every children to have both mothers and fathers but the problem is that the fathers is getting more rare in these days because often they would abandon their children even before their birth due to some of the reasons including the fear of being a father, divorcing or worse of all not wanting to be a father to their children and the percent of that is getting higher every year in the worldwide and that is often hard on the children especially the boys. In the study that most of the boys who doesn’t have a father would have a difficult time of learning how to be a man when they are grown up and the result of that is in the later time when they are grown and have their own children or even a wife there is a 50/50 chance that they will treat them like their fathers did and possibly abandon their own children too because they doesn’t know what it is to be a father by learning how their fathers fathered them in their childhoods but that is a rare case, thankfully but it is increasing cases too.
Such fathers like these who disown their children even before their birth or after is very selfish and these fathers absolutely have no respects from me at all, it is a shame for how their fathers would abandon their children for any reasons at all. How can possibly the fathers to disown a such important creatures in the worldwide? I am absolutely clueless at that, but often those worthless fathers who abandon their children either before or after their birth, they often will have a father figure to be their father especially either by their grandfather or someone else that married their mothers although there is a good numbers of children who never had a father figure in their life and most of time their own mothers will become their fathers slash mothers which they absolutely can be if they wish to be and there are several mothers who acts as their fathers and their mothers.
Now any one of you who has grown without any fathers, please know that you are not alone in this as there are several children who has grown without their fathers and when you ever have your own children then you can be a better father to them than your own father ever will be and that is the most matters. Any one of you who became fathers and abandoned your children then I have no respects for you at all, however it is not too late to become one by start visiting your children and make up all the times you never gave when they were young but some of them will appreciate that as long as you are telling them the truth for reason you abandoned them before or after they born even if it is going to hurt them but the important thing is they need to know it and by telling them why you did not want to be a father in the first place is a start of becoming a good father but still you would have a lot of proving to do to call yourself a father.
Now, my father.
Some of you who did not have much of a good childhood with your father, you are not alone because I am one of them. I do have a father but he was not there for me at all and the most of time he never shows that he cared for me throughout my life, even with him having a court order visitation with me every Sunday but in a way he is a good father, just not to me but to his other children which would be my young sister Suzanne. I have two siblings, both young sisters and I am the oldest out of all which that means I am his first child and the only his boy but I am not the only one as my youngest sister Racheal didn’t have much of a childhood with our father either but he is a great father to Suzanne and only Suzanne. Out of all of us three, he gave Suzanne everything she wants and would do anything for her such as always gives her money so that she could have anything she wants and bought her several things such as more than three cars, more than one houses to live in and much more but for me he has gave me nothing like that or Racheal either. He would give me some presents for some Christmas and some of my birthdays which would cost him about a hundred dollars of each holidays (Christmas and my birthday) and the most present he gave was three hundred of dollars I believe and that was only one time which was a half of the price for a computer I wanted with my mother and of course I am very thankful for that.
But that was only when I was at young ages from three years old to eighteen age but forward that age he stopped giving me any presents or visiting me or alone making the effort to call me. I am twenty-seven years old now and Suzanne is 3 years younger than I am but he still gives her many of expensive things such as a brand new car, more than three cars mind you and more than one house for her to live in along with several hundreds of dollars at any time she requests them or most of the time for no reason. When my mother and father was divorcing just a few days before I was born (on same month, literally) he said that he don’t want to be married to my mother and he does not want any children which that refers me so meaning he practically disowned me on the spot just a few days before I was born into this small world. Although when the time pass by, he did started visiting me and taking me up at his house every Sunday when I was a baby through the court order but I am not even sure if that was just because or it was the court order as I am not even sure about anything anymore but I do know one thing is that he was not and never will be there for me although I will admit I did have a good few moments with him especially when he would come to get me in the very early morning (3-4 AM) to take me with him to go Yatesville on his boat to fish with my uncle Ronnie (my father’s brother) or sometimes with his wife and my sister Suzanne and I loved him for that. Many years ago when I broke my femur in my leg after falling on a slippery stairs when I got home from the dance when my father had come to my house to give my mother the child support and after I fell I screamed, obviously I was in pain due to breaking my femur in leg in half at the age of 7 or 8 but before leaving the house to go to hospital I asked my father to come with me to the hospital but he responded back with “I am tired, I am going home” and then he left then my mother carried me herself to her car and took me right to the hospital and I had to be sent to another hospital that is much bigger which that was in Huntington, about almost two hours a drive and my mother stayed with me beside me for almost a whole month and my father would only visit me once with my Uncle Ronnie but it was not just because he wants to see me, both of my dad and my uncle Ronnie was heading this way to go hunting and I was just one of their stops on way to hunt.
Nonetheless with him for what he does to me still to this day, he still do everything for Suzanne as goes for paying her cars, houses and among others while I am getting nothing because I am his first-born child I still love him unconditionally because he is my father even if he doesn’t care much for me but I still love him and mostly that is because I am a better man than he ever will be. So any of you who have familiar experience I have, remember you are not alone and all of you including myself are better men and women then our fathers can be and it makes us even stronger.
Aside that I truly consider my grandfather as my father, he was the fathers figure to me who would do anything for me and I was his world. He would always look forwards to the days I come to my grandparents house to see them which was daily and he would always take me to a pizza restaurant called Little Vince and we would always order fries, a 7-up and a coffee for him and we both would sit on the stairs at the bank across Little Vince just two of us alone spending time with each others for several hours every single day. He had no job, he was not getting much money aside social security I believe which wasn’t much and only enough to pay for the house and bills but he would go as far as he could to get me some shoes, clothes and anything to put on my back and he would always make sure that I am clothes, feed and cared for. He was my hero and the best person I have ever met in my whole life and still to this day no one can ever replace for who he was, sadly he passed away when I was seven or eight years old and from just 7 to 8 years of my life with my pawpaw he did so much more things for me than even a quarter of things my father would ever for me to this day in 27 years comparing to my grandfather who’s retired and my father who has so much of money that he could pay for anything he wants and most of that goes to Suzanne and none for me or Racheal – Racheal is his youngest child. My grandfather, my hero and my favorite person in the entire world is John Childers and my father’s name is – Not deserves to be named in here.
Since my grandfather has passed away for many years ago, I have not had a father figure for several years until there was someone who came along that my mother met at a tanning place where he would used to go and both of my mother and him ended up dating each others when I just started going to high school in the year of 2001-2002 that has become the father figure in my life for many years now who lives with my mother for many years now, ever since he started dating my mother he would start giving me things especially twenty dollars every time we go to Wal-Mart when both had just started dating and he would help me with anything when I ask of him to and he has been part of my life for several years now which I am thankful for. Even though both of him and my mother isn’t married, I thought of him as a step father of mine and I would proudly tell that to anyone and he would take me out deers hunting and fishing many times and took me and my mother to Virginia and Florida beaches in two years row for a vacation and before that he would take me and my mother to a motel about two hours drive away from here in Paintsville I believe, so that the next day in early morning we would go out to rent a boat to go fishing at the lake and I would be the driver every time we go fishing there. He deserves more than credits he thinks, but I greatly appreciate for him being there for me every day and every night now and that guy would be Charles “Chad” Eanes. Happy fathers day, Chad and thank you.
I am a father, almost.
I was dating a girl in high school in my senior year and few months goes by she got pregnant by me and I was becoming a father and that was one of the best news I have ever had heard in my entire life. I was more than happy becoming a father because I have always wanted to have my own children so I can take them to fishing, hunting, four wheeling and many of other activities I like doing just so I could spend all the time I have with my children and I was looking very much forward having my own children. After hearing the news that I was becoming a father, which was a shocking news for me especially getting the news at my high school after she came back from a doctor appointment with her father and her grandmother, both of her father and grandmother was angry at the fact that she was pregnant which is normal because there is a lot of them would be angry hearing that their girl is pregnant but after taking it in then they become happy about it but I was the happiest out of all. My goal was that I am going to be a better father and that I was going to make sure that my child to have the best life as possibly he or she could live their life and even when the size of a bean in the to-be mother’s stomach I started buying the baby’s stuff whether it is a boy or a girl so obviously I was a very happy guy that was becoming a father until she was almost five months pregnant and one of the worst thing that ever had happened in my life aside my grandparent’s deaths, the girl that I was having a child with had a miscarriage and my world just goes with it and then both of us broke up and went on our lives but I still think about a child that I was about to have today and there was never one second that I forgot about the child I was about to call my own. It happened in 2004 and I was just 18 years old at that time, still to this day I hope to have a child to call my own someday. But I would need a woman first for a while before I might can to have a child to call my own, I am still young at 27 years old so there’s still some time until then but I hope that one day I will have children as that is my main dream to have a family. I would love to be a father more than anything, because being a father is a joy and pride that some of the fathers doesn’t understand especially the ones that abandoned their children or the ones like mine. Regardless the situations you have with your fathers, remember that you are not alone in this and that if you ever become a father that you remember you can be better father than your own will ever be.
Dear fathers – Please be there for your children because believe me that it is important for children’s life and from experience they will eventually don’t want to do anything with you if you never were there for them so it is time to be the fathers if you have children, if they are already grown then it may be too late but there is still a chance and only way to find out is to be a father and make up for all the years that you never spent with your own children. But any fathers out of you who cares about your children and is spending the time with their joy and pride to celebrate the father’s day, have a great fathers day my friend!
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- Joshie.
